Okay, so today’s little hodgepodge episode is going to be brought to you by time management.
Oh, time management, it’s so much fun. Honestly, it’s really not as big of a deal as we make it. It’s just taking those small tips to be more intentional, more thoughtful, and just tackling your time. Think about the people that you aspire to be. You have the same amount of hours as they do in a day, which means if it’s doable for them, it’s doable for you too!
So today’s episode will be about staying positive, time management, and outsourcing.
I have a planner, the panda planner. If you follow me on Instagram then you already know, I had this fangirl moment unboxing and everything, and I believe it was made through neurological science studies, correct me if I’m wrong. He went through like some psychology and even figured out how to plan your day to literally make yourself look forward to every single day while getting things accomplished. While at the end of the day, figuring out how to have a good mindset for the next day. It’s incredible. So let me just talk about some things that I like about planning and the way that this setup is.
You first start off with the date at the very top. Then, in the corner is a “Daily Habit”. So something that you want to start doing. It’s almost like when you write it down, you kind of automatically make yourself a little bit accountable to it. So for me, I will say like, my daily habit today is I want to rest, or I want to accomplish two things and then rest because honestly, I don’t rest much and I’m very aware of this. So I’m trying to be more intentional about it.
The next thing that you do, it’s called “Morning Reviews”. There’s this little banner that says morning review, and then a “Three things that I’m grateful for”. Mind-blowing, I always draw a blank at this because I’m like, wow, I never woke up in the morning and thought, Man, I am grateful for this or that. It’s as simple to say I’m grateful to be alive. I’m grateful for your good health. I’m grateful for my family. I’m grateful that I get to have my own business. And I’m grateful that I love my husband. It’s just seemingly basic things but surprisingly, writing it down just, it felt SO good.
After that, it says, “I am excited about 1,2,3”. So usually for me, the number one thing is taking a break. But for most people, it could be. I’m excited to go to the Dairy Queen with my kids or I’m excited to organize, whatever you’re excited about. It kind of gives you the ability to look forward to something instead of dreading the next day and thinking about all the work you have to do.
This organizes your thoughts efficiently and then there’s like two square boxes in the corner. That’s about focus and exercise. Now I try to run when Ken does because it just kind of keeps us like in check with each other. So that works out sometimes. But I usually get so tired that I just want to lay down in my bed and never get out. So I try not to actually get in bed towards the end of the night if I plan to run because the odds of me getting out are just slim to none.
And then the focus is something that you want to focus on creating in the future.
So this is like all just the beginning of the day, I love it. I love every bit of it and maybe that’s because I’m obsessed with planners, but I’m really bad at actually planning…
I just like the big picture and then kind of just go along with it. And if I get a couple things accomplished great. But this has held me accountable to things that I want to get done.
Then there’s a small section at the bottom for “Notes”. So I have instead of just having five pads of paper with random notes in them because that’s what I do. It doesn’t make any sense, but it’s what I do.
Then below in another box it says “I’m excited about this affirmation”. And this is really good. I think it was Tony Robbins or somebody just says, you know, just like, give yourself affirmations in the mirror when you wake up. I can’t do it. I CAN’T do it. It’s too creepy to me. But to be able to write it down in a sentence like today I am capable. Like that is just so powerful to me versus me just telling myself you are capable.
Then there’s like five boxes, huge boxes as today’s priorities. And so I write down the five things that actually choose your top three things that I want done. And then the very end of the day, I check off the huge box and it just feels like a great accomplishment.
Then there’s a schedule from 6am to 9pm. I usually use it from seven to three, those are technically my working hours and then about three o’clock, I’m just kind of done. I’m just like, yeah, I’m gonna go watch a movie and like not think about work.
I think that the creator of this planner did really good studying about this psychologically because I feel really good at the end of the day. I feel really good waking up and I feel really good in the morning, and having everything organized on one page and just like crossing off things and writing in things. It keeps me accountable. It keeps me excited about the day versus dreading all the things that come along with it.
If you’ve seen my desk half the time, there’s post-it notes everywhere. Only God knows why, but having everything organized in one place, it’s more productive for your work day.
Another thing that I would say of course, is self care. To like staying positive means also being aware, being secure, and taking a minute to just breathe, take care of yourself, take care of your body. I think this is something I need to really work on.
Tip number one is just being healthy and being aware. Be aware of fast food and the effects that it has on you because let’s just be real like after eating McDonald’s, I feel like my organs are shutting down. I’m not even kidding. I feel like my organs are shutting down. I feel tired. I feel like I need a nap. And it’s because you’re basically eating garbage. You know, when you feed your body you’re supposed to be giving it fuel and not giving it garbage. So, be mindful about the foods that you take in. I’m being mindful about it. I however, cannot get rid of sweets. I know people say you should cut your sugar. I don’t know if I could do that. And I know that our bodies were wired to be addicted to sugar. If you do the research, it’s gonna blow your mind how much sugar is in every single thing that we consume.
Drinking water in general, instead of just drinking pop and always drinking juice and always drinking all these other things like it actually, your body feels so much better drinking water. So like that’s another thing that’s self care, giving your body what it needs versus what you think you want.
Then of course the type of self care where you do a bath bomb and wear a mask like that is all needed being a mom and being a wife and and when I get 10 minutes which I usually only get 2 ½ but if I get 10 minutes to take a shower alone without Ella banging on the door and speaking gibberish I will do my three step skincare process I use skin balm apothecaries, stuff she like hand makes everything herself so I use her cleanser and then I use the toner and then I use like this beautiful lemon and orange smelling serum and so for like two minutes I just feel like I’m taking care of my skin.
So I’m being more mindful about how I treat my face and my skin and using good quality things. But seriously, just taking like five minutes to even wear a mask and just relax and just play some spa music is the best thing that I could ever do for myself. Another thing that I do I do this much more in the summertime because right now it’s still kinda cold. But in the summer, I usually go for a walk, or I sit on my porch and I journal and I just kind of think, be aware of my breathing and analyze my thoughts. I don’t want to sound like a hippie. But sometimes you get caught up in overthinking every single thing that you’ve done and other people have done and then you find yourself in this rabbit hole of insecurity and you feel paranoid. And then I have to just kind of analyze if I’m being rational or irrational, and then you know, sometimes I’ll read it back later and say to myself “Girl, you were crazy” but just having some time to be aware of yourself like I’m listening to myself more I’m listening to my thoughts. I’m trying to listen to my body and that’s been helping tremendously already.
Another thing that I would say is surround yourself with like minded people. Surround yourself with people that are positive that are lifting you up, not with the people that are always talking negative. The people that are always putting other people down recently I have been very aware of the toxic relationships in my life and other people’s lives. So if you feel really drained all the time, and you feel like when you leave someone’s presence, extremely tired and like I mentioned before, like you think you’re in toxic relationship, you probably are like, your instincts are usually not wrong, like if you feel something like you’ve been negative all day with somebody, then you probably were negative. So being aware of that is definitely something that I have been aware of my entire life. My parents have always told me to surround myself with people that lift me up and not tear me down.
Another thing is there’s gonna be things that happen, okay? Life happens, bad things happen. It comes with the territory. It comes with being a girl boss being surrounded by women, feelings come up, emotions come up and bad things happen. You know, sometimes people will say things that they don’t mean or they’re jealous or sometimes people are insecure and they take that out on you. Don’t take it personal because sometimes it’s not even about you like, they are dealing with their own problems of security.
So staying positive in a negative world, I’m definitely looking for the positive, even if it’s one thing, focusing on the fact that there’s so much more good than bad in the world, because there really is negative situations to seem to outweigh the good, it’s just life.
Being a business owner there’s going to be good things and bad things. There’s going to be successes and failures and if you learn how to deal with these small simple problems now then when the big things come your gonna be ready for it.
Now onto a different topic. I want to talk to you about outsourcing your time.
I think we’re all struggling with time because we’re trying to juggle whatever we have going on in our lives, if we have families, if we have friends, if we have things that we want to do if we have a social life, we wish we could have it all and stay busy trying to figure out how to time manage all of it.
So, I want to talk about why I choose to outsource, yes, I officially outsource my editing. You know, it’s funny, because when you start off in the business, you know, you’re trying to figure out your style and all this great stuff and it’s really hard to let go of your work. It’s really hard to give something to someone else that you spent so much time on, and actually trusting them with it. It is hard.
So I met with a company and I specifically told them exactly how I want my pictures to be edited. I give my clients sneak peeks and they use those sneak peeks to go off and I think I think that really helps you know, and if something needs to be fixed I will let them know hey, this tone isn’t right or this other thing isn’t right. So still, I am overseeing it. Of course I would never just give somebody my work and be like great I hope you figure it out haha.
So yeah, I outsource editing and it has been the best decision of my life. I could just scream from the rooftops about how excited I am because guys, photographers, I don’t know about anybody else but I’m relatively quick and it takes me hours and hours to edit a single wedding. I mean, I have to cull down 4,000 plus pictures depending on what my second shooter captures, and then edit every single photo. I would have to narrow them down to about 900 pictures at the most and then edit every single one and that usually takes me about two straight weeks because I have a family. When I didn’t have a husband and a daughter, of course, I was able to do it in like a week you know, but now it’s a little bit different.
So now with outsourcing, I have time to budget, cook, clean, etc. Honestly its the biggest thing that has changed my business. I was willing to finally let go of all of that control and honestly, I really think that’s what it is, for us. It’s control. Like, we are the CEO, we are the Boss Lady or Boss Man and we call the shots. These are my pictures, you know, but for me, I realized that being controlling is also robbing me of my happiness. It’s robbing me of my sanity. And it’s robbing me of time with my family.
So, I’m trying to encourage you. Honestly, that’s really what this is. I just want to pump you up and encourage you and to let you know that no, we don’t have it all together, but there are steps that we can take to try to make it somewhat together. I mean, life can’t be this crazy all the time, right?
I dive so much deeper into these topics on the episode, Listen in above!