On this hodgepodge episode, I’m going to take you behind the scenes of how I pretty much scraped my way to where I am now. Because honestly, let’s be REAL. Nobody started off at the peak of their life, right?
When I thought I was doing super well on social media, I was actually up to my neck in debt. I was behind on bills and I was scraping for jobs, #minisessions I booked like 50 of them because your girl needed the money. I remember I was at this one wedding I was talking to a DJ and we were just talking about Instagram and he said “Listen, like, I am booking like crazy, but I have no followers and Instagram. I have literally 100 followers but I’m so booked, nobody would ever know.” And I said “Yeah, that’s great like, I’m sorry, nobody knows, but followers don’t really pay your bills, they just boost your ego.”
If you want to feel like what you’re doing is important don’t look to your followers or number of likes. Ask your actual paying clients for reviews, like that’s golden. The year that I asked all my clients for like an honest review, I felt like I was the BEST photographer in THE WORLD! You couldn’t tell me anything different and it was the best Christmas present to me.
(I mean guys, I was living! Imagine me spinning around in the snow campus Martius, downtown Detroit. Yeah, that was me…Okay, maybe not. But maybe that’s how I imagined it.)
One of my FAVES is Jasmine Star and she always says “Jump and a net will appear.” If you’re an entrepreneur that’s literally what you have to do. You don’t know what’s going to happen, so you just have to jump and you know what happens? A net appears things start working out. You get the hang of it, you fail, you learn, you grow, you succeed, you achieve and I feel like that’s Awesome. That’s what we all should be looking for.
I wanted to share a couple of things to encourage people that don’t feel the need to show up every single day on social media.
Like me, I like to show them my stories, because I’m just really eager to like, show off some new decor thing that I’ve done, or post a meme, or post-Ella running around like crazy, but like in everyday life, sometimes I don’t post on my stories and it’s really relieving to actually live my life and be present.
Honestly, I miss the simple life and privacy. This curated perfection and I think that’s really just what it is. It’s curated perfection just gets to wear and causes so much cloudiness. It’s like everyone wants you to believe that their life really is as beautiful as they post it to be because they are doing marketing campaigns and oh my gosh, I’ve arrived because I’m doing advertising.
Maybe I’m gonna get a lot of flack for this but I just wanted to let you guys know not everything is what you think it is. And honestly, my heart goes out to those influencers out there always pushing marketing and working for those companies because honestly, it’s just so much work.
When I took my two-week break from Instagram, I felt so enlightened. I felt so light. I didn’t feel so heavy. And like it took me a while to get back into like the mode of posting every day. I actually schedule posts on the Later app, pretty often.
Sometimes I’ll delete the Instagram app, especially when it’s down for the millionth time. Sometimes I’ll just leave my phone somewhere and because I move so fast, I usually forget where I left it. And those are probably the best times to read a book, write in your journal, talk to a friend, go to the store, get some ice cream, relax, be yourself.
Honestly. It’s beautiful. Enjoy life because it was meant to be lived, not to be envied on a social media platform. Thanks for coming to my TED talk. I hope you feel inspired!